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RULE 4: Get yourself actively involved with changing the outcome of your life.
As I mentioned earlier, you can’t time when that right someone will walk into your life. It’s easy to say, “I want to be single until I’m 28 or 30, then I’ll find a serious girlfriend.” Well, good luck with that.
… But Don’t Wait Too Long Either
You can get a girlfriend in any environment where you see women. Just make sure that you focus on making her feel attracted to you. As long as you make women feel attracted to you by the way you talk to them and interact with them, most single women will be interested and very open to talking to you or giving you their phone number. If she already has a boyfriend, she will politely tell you that. If you are saying and doing things that make her feel attracted, the taken woman is not going to be angry that you approached her.
Assuming you’ve met the girl you want to make your girlfriend… here are our main guidelines for helping you avoid it ending up as just sex, or, having it fizzle out. For many of the men we coach, one of their main hindrances is, ironically enough… their eagerness to find a relationship. They obsess over their need to have a girlfriend, demonstrating clingy and needy behavior. And when they do meet girls they like, they usually scare them away because of this. Or the girl requests an exclusively sexual relationship without a chance for romance.
Y ou want a girlfriend who is better and hotter than anything you’ve ever experienced before. You’re not just into beauty and looks, although it’s not something you want to dismiss, you also want her personality to be amazing and easy to get along with. Totally understandable.
- To really accomplish this, you have to be willing to follow every step and not quit.
- Now I’m not saying you need to go out and tell a girl you’re attracted to her (although that does work when said in the right tone, see our article on how to tell a girl you like her), but instead don’t play it safe.
- Most likely it’s because of social communication skills, lack of self-esteem, not feeling confident enough around others, and the mindset that you NEED to DO something to get noticed… and you don’t have to DO anything.
- That way you’re showing intent in an honest, open way.
- This becomes especially evident whenever a relationship ends and the man has lost contact with most of his friends and has to start again from scratch.
- She’ll also ask herself how many girls you sleep with on the first night.
Make sure you know where you want to go and what you want to do. If you don’t, avoid asking if she wants to do something and assume that she does. A woman likes a man that knows what he wants, from the larger scope of his life and ambitions to the minutiae, such as setting up dates and ordering at restaurants. If you don’t communicate your interest to a woman you like when you first meet, she can never see you as someone she’ll experience intimacy with. She’s already categorised you in her head.
And moving in shouldn’t be considered until a year or so. When women are looking for someone to date, they want to feel secure that he wants them for more than just sex. Therefore, when women have sex with someone on the first date, they’ll often feel that things went too far too fast.
You could also be more direct and tell them how you really feel. If you think they’re the most beautiful girl you’ve seen that day, don’t be afraid to let them know. Usually I find that most guys have all the other aspects of their life covered, but remain clueless when it comes to really building massive attraction. Well let me tell you, you might have everything going for you in terms of looks, money and fame, but if you can’t spark attraction you’re not going to get a girlfriend.
Men who are struggling to understand how to attract women, or get their dating life “handled”… as well as experienced players too… they find it difficult to get a girlfriend, for different reasons. I’m not saying the girl you meet will end up being there for the rest of your life. But if there’s something there, you owe it to the both of you to explore the possibility of an extraordinary relationship. Opportunity doesn’t knock too often.
We men, on the other hand… we often become complacent, and forget to nurture our social life outside the relationship. Even with our best friends. When you are infatuated… your priorities change, and all you want to do is to be with your loved one. But over time, this can become suffocating and your social life takes the hit.
Keep writing her little love notes, or buy her a doughnut on the way home, or fix something she’s been meaning to get to. 4. Always stay honest.
You should also ask casually about her hobbies or pets to show you’re interested in her life. After you’ve gotten to know each other, pick a time to ask her out, like in the hall after school, so you’re not rushed and can have some time alone. If you’re reading this, maybe you feel like you’ve tired of the wild life and you want to settle down. Or maybe you’ve found out that you want a relationship more than you want to live the bachelor lifestyle. No matter why you’re reading this, we have put together this comprehensive guide for how to get a girlfriend.